Wedding Vows

Your Wedding Vows Are Your Future

If I told you to buy a TV,
that works only 50% of the time,
would you?

probably not.

So Why are people getting married
if it only works 50% of the time?

Clue: Its all in your Vows

Wedding Vows

So your going to get married, and you need to impress your future
wife/husband or your friends and family with some powerful vows. A vow that will get tears rolling down peoples eyes, a vow that will catch people by surprise, a vow that will get people shouting ..WoW. Well you can achieve all that and more but first things first, did you know that there is allot more to vows then meets
the eye. After this letter you will not look at vows the same way
again, I promise.

The definition of vow is -

1. An earnest promise to perform a specified act or
behave in a certain manner, especially a solemn promise to live and act in
accordance with the rules of a religious order: take the vows of a nun.

2. A declaration or assertion.

Well that's a powerful definition, the wedding vows are not just a love note,
or a show of affection but a promise a commitment. What makes the wedding vow so powerful that we use it when we get married.

Let me start by saying this; a human being has one unique quality over all the
animal kingdom, and although we are similar to the ape in 98% of our genetic 
make up, there is still that 2% difference, what is that difference.

It all starts with Adam in the biblical story. A form of a human is created;
"And the Lord God formed man from the dust of the earth. He blew into his nostrils
the breath of of life, and man became a living being".

A "Living Being" that is the 2% difference. Scripture tells us that while animals
can communicate, humanity was skilled with the power of speech.
The power of speech is not only a form of communication but a means to determine and shape the world. When a person says something it affects the world around him. More than that ( and this will blow you away ), speech can also change the physical world. This though brought down by ancient far east scholars and middle eastern kabbalah scholars was proven scientifically - in the discoveries of quantum physics. We wont go into all the proofs of mind over matter, but simply to say that your uttering of words can affect, shape, and give direction to the world you live in.

Now a Vow of any sort is a high form of speech, its a more focused condensed speech. there is a big difference between a rap star babbling some lyrics of a song to a person standing in front of the alter pledging his commitment to his/her spouse.

Words are words but at certain times when there is concentration and intent they
can give meaning, and they can shape your future life.

So lets look at the reality of things. You want to get married, you want to live
happily ever after, you want everything in life, but you know you are faced with,
a harsh reality. One out of every 2 couples getting married are probably going to
get divorced. what pressure, standing there on the alter heading for a 50% failure
rate. No one in the world would go into a simple business deal on those terms.

So what do we do? Well your vows have a crucial part in your success. Saying I
love you is nice and sweet, but uttering the words "I love you" is over rated
(not love itself). What do you mean when you say that, what are your goals,
aspirations, commitment, value system? those things hold a marriage together.

When you craft your vow think of it as your master plan, the plan that will
guide you for your rest of your life. What you say and mean is what is
going to happen, so if you say "for richer, for poorer" do you mean that,
it means that you open up the possibility of being poor, can you handle that?
don't byte off what you can't chew.

Some vows are more religious then others, are you religious? don't say what you
don't mean, your words shape your world.

Now i am not trying to scare you or something but i am a practical person but
I'm also a mystical person. On a practical level you are headed towards a 50%
failure rate, its surprising that people would not buy a TV set if the seller
will tell you "listen it works 50% of the time" but they would buy an apartment,
open a joint bank account, and have kids with a 50% success rate, how funny is that.

Well like we said it all starts in the beginning, in the marriage in the vows.
In the right focus on the building process called "Marriage", and it is a process.

So now that you understand a little bit more about, commitment, vows, and the power of speech, you have two choices: